Apr 06

“Snack Time!” A great way to connect our kids with the truths of God’s Word

Snack-Time-series-logoWho doesn’t like snacks? What’s NOT to love… a little something sweet, salty or savory to get us through until our next meal? Well, this spring and summer Chaplain Chris and the kids will be snacking on some tasty treats and “feasting” on God’s Word… learning what Jesus meant when he said, “One must not live on bread alone, but on every word of God” (Jesus in Luke 4:4, quoting Deuteronomy 8:3). Every chapel time will have a snack as an object lesson, and once the children learn the story each snack teaches, they’ll enjoy their snack!

Some of the connections will be fairly obvious… fruit snacks for fruit of the Spirit, for instance. But, what will be the lesson connected to sunflower seeds? And, it’s pretty easy to choose animal crackers as a tie-in to the story of Noah’s Ark, but what spiritual truth can be gleaned from snacking on “Teddy Grahams?” It’s all about keeping the children engaged and creatively looking to God’s Word for insight into how they can build healthier and happier relationships.

If you or your church would like to help with this effort, maybe you could organize a “snack food drive” for the children of Intermountain? The best thing is, even if we get too many of a certain snack, Chaplain Chris will be able to use them for snack time at a later chapel date, send them with kids on their numerous summer camping trips, or even share them with the therapeutic summer support outreach program Intermountain offers to families once school is out. If we’ve whetted your appetite (pun intended) and you’d like to help, here’s the list of suggested snacks:

  • Fruit Snacks
  • Go-Gurt
  • Goldfish Crackers / “Whales” Crackers
  • Teddy Grahams
  • Red Licorice
  • Mini-Pretzels
  • Apple Chips
  • Animal Crackers
  • Candy Rocks
  • Graham Crackers
  • Cool Ranch Doritos
  • Spicy/Hot Doritos
  • Bugles
  • Trail Mix
  • Captain Crunch Cereal
  • “Fun Dip” Candy
  • Alphabet cookies
  • Now & Later candy
  • Cheetos
  • “Fruit by the foot”
  • Hot Tamales candy
  • “Spitz” Sunflower seeds

Mar 28

Easter Celebration at Intermountain!

We here at Intermountain hope you had an amazing Easter celebration! This year brought something different to our Easter observance and built upon our ecumenical Lenten observances. As you may have seen in an earlier post, our children had the opportunity to learn about a variety of religious observances around the Easter holiday, and this concluded

The lovely sanctuary of Plymouth Congregational Church

The lovely sanctuary of Plymouth Congregational Church

with attending the Easter morning service at Plymouth Congregational Church.

Our Easter Celebration started early in the morning with the children being surprised by a special basket left for each child by their bedroom door! Easter baskets for all our children at our Helena campus were prepared by Grace Community Fellowship. After breakfast, kids and staff alike attended the 10 am service at Plymouth Congregational Church. Pastor Roger Lynn and the congregation went out of their way to make sure everyone felt comfortable and included in the celebration. Chaplain

Rev. Roger Lynn

Rev. Roger Lynn

Chris Haughee took the entire direct care staff and children over for a “field trip” to visit the church two weeks before Easter to help calm any anxiety being in a new space might bring.

After the service, the children and staff made their way back to campus for a HUGE Easter Egg Hunt. This year, like many before, our Easter was made special because of the support of local churches and faith-based supporters. St. Paul’s United Methodist Church stuffed hundreds of Easter eggs for our on-campus egg hunt. Many others stopped by Easter week with little gifts of well wishes, or held events in their churches as fundraisers for the ministry here.

The kids really seemed to respond well to the various ways we celebrated both Lent and Easter-Plymouth-UCCEaster, entering into each of our chapel services with a spirit of enthusiasm and joy, eager to learn more from our special guests and one another. Easter is another of those reminders to our staff, children, and families that we are in this journey of transformation and growth through relationship alongside a great multitude of faithful supporters. Thank you, our many faith-based donors and friends, for praying for the staff and children. We appreciate your continued faithfulness to partner with us in the mission of bringing health and healing to children and their families.

 

Mar 17

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!


Happy St. Patrick’s Day to you and yours from those of us at Intermountain’s Residential Services. You can be sure that lots of “wearin’ o’ the green” is going on both at our Helena and Kalispell homes. Every year in Helena the boys have a special breakfast, hear the story of St. Patrick (told by VeggieTales, above), and have a little fun trying on new Leprechaun names and picking favorite teams for “March Madness.”

The 2016 Intermountain St. Patrick's Day shirt

The 2016 Intermountain St. Patrick’s Day shirt

This year in Helena, we had the pleasure of a visit at lunchtime by the Tiernan Irish dancers, a festive group of dancers that features the daughter of one of Intermountain’s Occupational Therapists. All the boys wore their St. Patrick’s Day T-shirts, designed by Chaplain Chris, featuring a bright orange mustache as part of a stylized face made up of the words, “Happy St. Patrick’s Day.”

Providence Home in Kalispell also got in on the fun, with t-shirts for everyone and special decorations on tables and throughout the home and school. It’s the little things that are worth celebrating and bring a sense of fun and playfulness into the hard work done with kids and families each day.

So, whatever this St. Patrick’s Day brings you, we send you our warmest thoughts and prayers.

An Irish Prayer of Blessing:

St. Patrick, as drawn by one of our children
St. Patrick, as drawn by one of our children

May God give you…
For every storm, a rainbow,
For every tear, a smile,
For every care, a promise,
And a blessing in each trial.
For every problem life sends,
A faithful friend to share,
For every sigh, a sweet song,
And an answer for each prayer.

Mar 14

“Pet Rocks Don’t Talk” – a lesson for Palm Sunday

Objects needed: If possible, a “pet rock” decorated with eyes, mouth, etc. If not a “pet rock,” then just any old rock will do!

Theme/Main Idea: Jesus wants us to use our words and actions to show that we know He is God’s Son and our

Gary Dahl's pet rock "invention" made him a millionaire!

Gary Dahl’s pet rock “invention” made him a millionaire!

Savior.

Presentation:
“Good morning, boys and girls! I have a question for you before I show you what is in my box. Here it is… How many of you have a pet?

[Kids raise hands, possibly offering the kids of pets they have and their names, etc. Let the children answer, but cut the responses short if it goes more than 20-30 secs. One way to involve all the children is to take a “poll” and have kids raise hands for different kinds of pets they might have: dogs, cats, birds, turtles, etc.]

Well, my pet is here in this box. It is very well behaved. Would you like to see it?

[Take rock out of the box you brought it in, or bag, or your pocket… whatever.]

What is it? [A rock!]

What do you think of my pet? [Kids might think it is silly, funny, dumb…]

Some of you don’t seem to appreciate my pet. But let me tell you something:

In 1975… ancient history for all of you kids, I know… in 1975, a man named Gary Dahl was talking with his friends who were all complaining about their pets. They complained about feeding, paying vet bills, cleaning up after them… all sorts of things. Gary joked about a rock being the perfect pet, and a few months later he started selling pet rocks! You may think the idea is silly, but he sold enough of them that he became a millionaire. Wow! Apparently a lot of people thought a rock would make a great pet, too.

But, let me ask you… can a rock play with you? [NO.]

Can it fetch a stick or roll over? [NO].

Is it fun to cuddle with? [NO!]

Okay… one last question… does a rock make any noise? Like, can it talk or bark or sing or say anything? [NO!!!]

What if I were to tell you that there was one time in history when the rocks almost could have shouted and sung out? Do you know when that was? [children respond]

Yes! It was Palm Sunday. The day Jesus came into Jerusalem riding on a donkey. When Jesus was told to tell his followers to be quiet and to stop praising him as the Messiah, the son of David… the one who had come in the name of the Lord, well… Jesus told them that he couldn’t tell them to be silent. And, here’s the kicker… even if he could have made them silent, Jesus said the rocks on the ground and all around them would have started to shout and sing his praises!

Wow! It almost makes me wish the people would have been quiet. It would have been really cool to see a rock sing!

But, as it is… well, my pet rock doesn’t do much of anything. And, I guess that’s okay.

I’d hate for my rock to start praising God for Jesus because I wasn’t willing to. How about you? Wouldn’t you rather sing and praise Jesus yourself than count on the rocks to do it? Yes, me too.

Will you pray with me?

“God, we thank you that the rocks don’t need to cry out on our behalf. We praise you for filling out hearts with joy and causing us to sing and shout your praises. Our joy is so great, we can’t keep it to ourselves. We want to share this joy with everyone, and especially with the children of Intermountain. Bless our efforts, and bless our Change for Children cans, that as we fill them with our gifts, You might fill us with your love, grace, and peace. Amen.”

Key Text: Luke 19:37-40, (NIrV)
37 When he came near the place where the road goes down the Mount of Olives, the whole crowd of disciples began joyfully to praise God in loud voices for all the miracles they had seen:
38 “Blessed is the king who comes in the name of the Lord!”
“Peace in heaven and glory in the highest!”
39 Some of the Pharisees in the crowd said to Jesus, “Teacher, rebuke your disciples!”
40 “I tell you,” he replied, “if they keep quiet, the stones will cry out.”

Mar 08

Continuing our Lenten Journey

One of the best parts of practicing the observance of Lent is that you know you are joining in with millions of others

Students from Jim Thomas' class at Intermountain School learn about the symbolism and meaning of the Cathedral's windows

Students from Jim Thomas’ class at Intermountain School learn about the symbolism and meaning of the Cathedral’s windows

around the globe and from various Christian traditions as you do so. In a previous post, I mentioned that the children were introduced to the concept of Lent and the practice of walking or praying through the stations of the cross by Rev. Gabe Morrow, of St. Peter’s Episcopal Cathedral in Helena. Recently, we had the opportunity to visit the more widely known cathedral in Helena: St. Helena’s Cathedral.

The children listened attentively as the docents for the Cathedral explained the significance of the various beautiful stained glass windows and well as the significance of various parts of the nave and sanctuary. They heard the history of building the Cathedral and how for the first few decades of it’s use it was a much simpler space in terms of décor. In the fifties, large chandeliers containing speakers were installed, and the beautiful archways were “gilded,” and that’s when the gold and deep maroon paintings went up that give the space such grandeur and depth.

The students also learned that while the enormous columns that run the length of the cathedral are not solid marble, the 14 carved stations of the cross are, and

detail from one of the Stations of the Cross, #13, Jesus is removed from the cross

detail from one of the Stations of the Cross, #13, Jesus is removed from the cross

we had the opportunity to walk around the Cathedral and appreciate the tremendous detail and attention that was placed in carving each of these beautiful pieces by hand!

As we continue to journey toward Easter, it’s been exciting to see the breadth of religious experience our children have had the opportunity to engage. We’ve started out with Episcopalians, entertained a guest from the Tanzanian Christian church, been ministered to by the youth of St. Paul’s United Methodist, toured a Catholic Cathedral, and will worship on Easter morning in a United Church of Christ! Continue to pray for our children and their families, that this Easter observance will be a blessing to them and a source of hope and continued perseverance in the hard work of treatment and healing through healthy relationships.

Mar 01

Learning empathy through charity – Bishop Eliudi visit 2016

Bishop-E-preachingRecently, our children assembled hygiene kits as a service project. These hygiene kits are given to students that come from far away to attend the International Evangelism Centre in Salika, Tanzania. At the Centre, these students prepare to be church planters and pastors to a number of countries in East Africa. The relatively few supplies—all fitting into a 1 gallon Ziplock bag—are a tremendous blessing to these eager, but often impoverished, students.

This project allows us a wonderful opportunity to discuss in chapel just how richly we are blessed, and that there is always something to be thankful for in the midst of our struggles in life. For many of our children, uprooted from their homes and working through some very difficult issues and matters of relationship, it was a healthy reminder that they, too, have something to give. They could see in a very tangible way that they had been blessed to be a blessing.

In a special chapel attended by Bishop Eliudi, the founder and president of IEC-Salika, the children had an opportunity to connect a little with the culture and language of Tanzania. The youth leadership team from St. Paul’s United Methodist Church led a fun activity that involved making “clothespin giraffes” and running a relay to unscramble words and phrases we had been learning from Swahili.

Our children unscramble the word "Jambo," meaning "Hello!"

Our children unscramble the word “Jambo,” meaning “Hello!”

   “For it is in giving that we receive…” -St. Francis of Assisi

In the Chaplain’s Program at Intermountain, we feel it is important for the children to learn compassion, empathy, and the positive sense of self that comes from giving oneself in service to another. From the spirit and the energy that flowed from our chapel service with Bishop Eliudi, it is hard to argue against the therapeutic power of service and acts of kindness and encouragement. One of the highlights this year was having Bishop Eliudi lead us in singing while playing one of the drums donated by our friends at Absarokee Community Church.

A big thank you goes out to the many Intermountain staff that donated items for the kits we made. I am also thankful for Sami Butler for her help in arranging the visit on campus. A grand total of 29 kits were assembled, each with a special note of encouragement from one of our children to the student that would receive one.

Sami Butler and Bishop Eliudi share about the ministry in Tanzania

Sami Butler and Bishop Eliudi share about the ministry in Tanzania

Feb 23

When will we “fig”-ure it out? An object lesson for the third Sunday in Lent

NOTE: This object lesson appears in the series of 7 free object lessons available here.

Objects needed: Fig Newtons (preferably one small package, and one large package)fig-newton

Theme/Main Idea: God waits patiently for us to respond to his love… what are we waiting for?

Presentation:

“Good morning! How are you this morning? Are you filling up your change cans at home or in your Sunday school class? I sure hope so! It makes a big difference in the lives of the children at Intermountain. You know what else makes a big difference… at least for me when I am hungry?

            [Take out small package of Fig Newtons]

That’s right! Food. Food is really important, right?! In fact, I am so hungry, I am going to eat some right now.

             [eat all of the small package of Fig Newtons and really ham it up… Mmmm… Mmmm… so good, etc.]

There… much better. Not hungry anymore. [pause]

Why are you all looking at me like that? Oh, you thought I had some for you? Hmmm… maybe I should have shared? Well, I’ll see what I can do about that later. But first I want to tell you a story. Actually, it’s a story Jesus told…

“A man had a fig tree,” Jesus said. “It was growing in his vineyard. When he went to look for fruit on it, he didn’t find any.  So he went to the man who took care of the vineyard. He said, ‘For three years now I’ve been coming to look for fruit on this fig tree. But I haven’t found any. Cut it down! Why should it use up the soil?’

 “’Sir,’ the man replied, ‘leave it alone for one more year. I’ll dig around it and feed it.  If it bears fruit next year, fine! If not, then cut it down.’”

What an interesting story, right? Do you think Jesus was really talking about fig trees?

     [kids respond]

Well, here’s one thing I get from the story…

In the story, we’re supposed to think, ‘Yes. That is a really reasonable way to treat a tree that hasn’t produced any fruit for three years.’ Cut it down… why not?

Then, we are supposed to see how reasonable it is wait and hold out hope for maybe one more year, and with special attention, maybe the tree will bear fruit.

But, what about people? How long do we give them before we cut them down or cut them off? God shows us love and patience but I am wondering, does he get tired and want to be rid of us if we aren’t doing what we are supposed to? [children respond]

No. God doesn’t. God keeps patiently waiting for us, loving and caring for us way beyond what might be considered reasonable. And, I am so thankful for that! Let’s pray and thank God for just how patiently and loving he cares for us until we do what we should… which is not only to respond to God’s love, but to share that love with others… which is why…

     [take out larger package of Fig Newtons]

I think I should share with you some of what I was greedily just enjoying myself. Do you think that’s a good idea? [children respond enthusiastically] Yeah, me too.

Let’s pray:

God, thank you for so patiently loving us. We are glad that, unlike the fig tree in the story, we can see the fruit in our lives as a result of your love flowing through us to others. For those who have not responded yet to Jesus’ call, or maybe haven’t got much fruit to show for all the love you have poured into them… Prompt them, Holy Spirit, to open their hearts to you this day. Bless our ongoing collection for Change for Children, and may it be a great way that we can show that we are ‘fig trees’ bearing much fruit! In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

 

Teaching Text: Luke 13:1-9 (NIrV)

Some people who were there at that time told Jesus about certain Galileans. Pilate had mixed their blood with their sacrifices. Jesus said, “These people from Galilee suffered greatly. Do you think they were worse sinners than all the other Galileans? I tell you, no! But unless you turn away from your sins, you will all die too. Or what about the 18 people in Siloam? They died when the tower fell on them. Do you think they were more guilty than all the others living in Jerusalem? I tell you, no! But unless you turn away from your sins, you will all die too.”

Then Jesus told a story. “A man had a fig tree,” he said. “It was growing in his vineyard. When he went to look for fruit on it, he didn’t find any. So he went to the man who took care of the vineyard. He said, ‘For three years now I’ve been coming to look for fruit on this fig tree. But I haven’t found any. Cut it down! Why should it use up the soil?’

“ ‘Sir,’ the man replied, ‘leave it alone for one more year. I’ll dig around it and feed it. If it bears fruit next year, fine! If not, then cut it down.’ ”

 

 

Feb 16

2016 Valentine’s Tea with former chaplain, Dana Holzer!

We were blessed to have former chaplain, Dana Holzer, join us as the guest speaker for our 2016 Tea. Dana served as chaplain from 1999-2012.

We were blessed to have former chaplain, Dana Holzer, join us as the guest speaker for our 2016 Tea. Dana served as chaplain from 1999-2012.

Last week we had the pleasure of putting on another wonderful Girls’ Valentine’s Day Tea. We hosted the Tea in our Community Service Center building and were treated to a brief talk on Victorian era tea etiquette by Intermountain President’s Council member Loy Chvilicek and a wonderful devotional talk from Dana Holzer, the former chaplain of Intermountain Residential services. Cookies and other goodies were provided by the ladies of St. Peter’s Episcopal Church of Helena. Many staff members helped with preparation, set-up, service, and clean-up, but the greatest assistance came from our resident wonder-woman, Anne Wilmoth!

Chaplain Chris was especially grateful, too, for the help that our Jewish Educator, Janet Tatz, provided in chasing down great deals on chocolate dipped strawberries from Van’s, flowers and special cookies. What a blessing it was to see Intermountain’s young ladies in residence truly feel special and honored by the fuss made over them. It warmed the hearts of all in attendance to see how deeply the love of God has touched the children in our care and the difference it is making in their lives.

Thrivent-shirt

one of our girls models the “Live Generously” shirts Thrivent donated

In part, the size of the “fuss” made over our special young ladies was made possible by a Thrivent Action Team grant that Chaplain Chris was able to secure because he is a Thrivent member. They provided t-shirts, tips on organizing volunteers, and a $250 VISA gift card to help offset expenses associated with the event. One of the things we were able to do with that added support was to purchase water goblets for the same price as renting them for two events (which we have done the last two years!) and provide a fun backdrop and photo props for a few silly pictures after the tea was concluded.

It was an honor to have Intermountain’s previous chaplain, Dana Holzer, come and share the devotional message. Dana did a wonderful job weaving a message of hope and love together with very concrete examples and images that our girls to connect with. Those gathered for the Tea were deeply touched by Dana’s words and the gentle way with which she shared her story.

Thanks to Imagine Design for the beautiful personalized necklaces each of our young ladies received!

Thanks to Imagine Designs for the beautiful personalized necklaces each of our young ladies received!

Chaplain Chris was able to provide special gifts for everyone in attendance—thanks to his wonderful friends Rachel and Bob Krug of Imagine Designs—that serve as a reminder of the message Dana shared, “Even when you are not feeling lucky, you are LOVED.” Our girls all received a personalized Valentine that had a one of a kind personalized necklace, designed by Rachel, which had both a penny (luck) and a heart charm (love). The girls were able to take the penny and scratch off a special message written in their Valentine from Chaplain Chris and Jewish Educator, Janet Tatz. What a joy it was to see the girls’ reaction to receiving such a special gift and a valuable message of love and acceptance!

Each person at the Tea felt blessed to have had that time and opportunity to express the love of God toward one another and left with their hearts a little lighter and a little fuller.

Feb 09

A look in on our Lenten chapel services and a free resource

You may be like me, in disbelief that Lent is already here… and Easter not far behind! I thought you might like a “look in” to see how we are observing Lent in our chapel services on campus, as well as have a reminder that I have for free children’s sermons for you to use that coincide with the seasonal liturgy (more on that below)!

stations-cards

Each of the children received a copy of these “Stations of the Cross” Learning Cards available through Oriental Trading Company.

One of the great things about being a chaplain to children from such a variety of spiritual backgrounds is that part of my work is to help interpret for the children the breadth of religious experience, including the diversity of faith expressions within Christianity. This year, in addition to the inter-faith explorations of Purim and Passover, I decided to have the children explore the tradition of “Stations of the Cross”—a commemorative and meditative walk through the last hours of Jesus’ passion, observed traditionally in many Catholic and Anglican/Episcopal churches, as well as some Lutheran and Methodist parishes.

After an introduction into the concept of Lent as a time of slowing down and preparing our hearts for Easter, we had a special guest from St. Peter’s Cathedral, the Rev. Gabriel Morrow, come and share with us the meaning of the Stations in his observance within the Episcopal church. The children were each given and age-appropriate collection of devotional cards for each of the Father-Gabestations, available through Oriental Trading Company (see picture and click for link). Children helped read through a number of the stations in our time together, reflecting on such questions as: “Are there times when people have said hurtful things to you? Did you feel sad, scared, or angry?” (from Station 1: Jesus is Condemned to Die) After asking a reflective question, each card then has a prayer prompt, in this case: “Ask Jesus to help you remember that He is always with you especially during these times.”

Later in the month, we’ll also be taking a special field trip to the Helena Cathedral, where children will have an opportunity to not only explore this historic place of worship, but ask those conducting the tour about the Catholic practices specific to Lent and see the Stations of the Cross in that setting.

The purpose of these special trips and activities is to build a greater appreciation for the faith practices of those that share a belief in God. Even our children and staff that are not either Christian or particularly religious have expressed interest and appreciation for learning more about how many around the world and in our community observe the season of Lent and Easter. That takes me back to my offer to you… some free resources for exploring the Lenten season, either in your church or with your family.

[click here for the free Children’s Sermons for Lent]

Even if your church doesn’t formally celebrate Lent, you will hopefully find these children’s sermons helpful. There is one for each Sunday in Lent (which begins February 10th with “Ash Wednesday”) following the gospel lessons from this year’s liturgical calendar. Other resources that tie into Lent and Easter from previous years are also posted on our site here under “resources.” Feel free to look around and use anything that might be helpful in your preparations for the Easter season.

So, enjoy these children’s sermons and watch for even more “free goodies!” I hope they are a blessing to you, and I’d love your feedback on anything I can do to improve not only these resources, but also my efforts to bless you and your ministry in the year ahead.

Sincerely,

Chaplain Chris Haughee

Jan 27

How a “Presbycatalutapalian” taught me to build bridges while maintaining my convictions

Friends and mentors Dave and Julie Pederson continue to serve the Lord well on the mission field

Friends and mentors Dave and Julie Pederson continue to serve the Lord well on the mission field

There are certainly many ways one can choose to express his or her faith in public. Certainly, during this political season, there is no shortage of judgments made on the character of individuals based on the religious ideals they may or may not possess. At every turn it seems we are asked to pledge allegiance to those “on our side” or disown someone because they may not believe exactly as we do. To be a bridge-builder and peace-keeper under these conditions can be difficult.

I owe a great deal of the clarity I have in my calling and the emphasis I place in my ministry on building bridges of respect, honor, and relationship, to the model set for me by a youth pastor I shared with other young people at First Presbyterian Church of Puyallup, Washington, in the late 1980s to 1991. Dave Pederson, and wife Julie, described themselves as “Presbycatalutapalians”—a blend of Presbyterian, Catholic, Lutheran, and Episcopalian.

Dave served as youth pastor in the Presbyterian Church I attended Wednesdays for youth group with my best friend, Scott Carden. Dave also taught at a Catholic elementary school in Puyallup. I forget where, exactly, the Lutheran and Episcopalian influences came in, but one thing was clear: the Pedersons loved God and viewed service to God as their life’s mission.

Mission work has been something I have always been drawn to. It was part of why I liked Dave and Julie almost immediately. They put their faith into action in service to others. In 1991, that commitment led to a calling: to teach and serve as missionaries overseas in China. From there, Madagascar. Then, the African mainland. They are currently serving in Nairobi, Kenya. We connect every few years when they are back in the States, but mostly I just follow what they are up to through the letters we get as supporters of their ministry.

If I were to guess, Dave and Julie would be reticent to claim that they passed on any great insight or teaching during their time in ministry with me as one of their charges. I would disagree. In the fashion that good theology is “caught” as much as it is “taught,” here are a few gems I picked up from their example:

First, everyone is an individual for whom Christ lived, died, and rose again to bring new life and hope. My personal feelings about them matter not a whit in this regard. If God loved them that much, I should do more than just tolerate them… I should seek to love them as well.

Second, you can build bridges of relationship and trust through hard work done humbly. Look to elevate the status of those around you as you work alongside them. Become an encourager of the best in others, and you’ll find that many people are happy to return the favor.

Third, respect is a two-way street… if you don’t want to be treated as a caricature, don’t resort to viewing others this way. Refuse the short-cuts of prejudice, racism, and sexism. Think for yourself and get to know the other person, especially those “close to home.” Then, you can refer to them by their first name, respectfully, and not by the category you might be tempted to place them in. This is especially helpful in a heated election year such as 2016!

Fourth, your argumentation or persuasion of others will never trump the work of the Holy Spirit. You do your work of living and telling, and let God do the convicting. Jesus said, “No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them to me” (John 6:44). If Jesus did not resort to proverbial arm-twisting to win a convert, we should definitely think twice about anything that feels manipulative.

Finally, foster a strong relationship with God through Jesus Christ. If this is solid, you don’t have to fear the opinions and beliefs of others. You can stand on your beliefs and principles out of their own merit, not because you think they are superior to someone else’s. Or, put another way: You can stand your ground without having to pull the rug out from under someone else.

I could continue, but I think those are the main points I gleaned from my friends and mentors, the Pedersons. They helped to shape the bridge-building and relationship-building work I hope to continue through my own ministry. And, if I have been successful at all in following their example, perhaps others who have sat under my teaching have likewise seen a pattern of ministry worth emulating? I can only hope so.

 

(c) Chris Haughee, 2016. A version of this article also appeared in the January 30th print edition of the Helena Independent Record.

 

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