Oct 16

Would you consider “Change for Children” this Christmas?

Once again, I would like to make available to you and your church free Advent children’s object lessons! While written primarily for a Children’s Sermon format, these object lessons could be used in a Sunday school setting, youth group, or even as sermon illustrations! None of the lessons are dependent on Change for Children (CFC) CFC-logoparticipation, because we would like them to simply be a gift to you. If you choose to dovetail CFC into these lessons, it’s as simple as contacting us and requesting our prayer cards or setting a goal of numbers of cans returned by Christmas!

Click here for your free children’s sermons!

In my nineteen years in children and youth ministry, the object lessons I have used for children’s sermon times have been a very effective way of communicating the truth of God’s Word.  Many of the adults in the congregation would tell me they preferred my children’s sermons to my “regular” sermons!  Jesus taught in object lessons and word pictures, too, so it should be no surprise to us that this method is highly effective—surely Jesus knew what he was doing and set an example for us to follow!

These lessons have been carefully crafted around the stories of the Advent season (Revised Common Lectionary, Year C) and how the message of God’s love for us in Jesus impacts our hearts and lives. I hope this resource blesses you, saves you time in preparation, and makes your workload a little lighter. It is my hope that our relationship will truly be a partnership of mutual benefit. As Intermountain’s Chaplain, I want to be a resource to you and an encouragement in your work with children and families. The children’s sermons can be found on the “Resource” page, as well as examples from previous years, should those object lessons fit better with what you are planning.

So, enjoy these lessons, and let me know what you think. I’d love to hear from you and build a stronger relationship between the chaplain’s ministry at Intermountain and the good work you are doing in your church and community.

Chaplain Chris Haughee, chrish@intermountain.org

Oct 10

Toward a Theology of Hospitality – a sermon by Intermountain Board President, Rev. Marianne Niesen

[This sermon was delivered in worship at St. Paul’s UMC in Helena, Montana on Sept. 20th, 2015. Rev. Marianne Niesen serves as Sr. Pastor of St. Paul’s UMC as well as the Chair of the Intermountain Board of Directors]

The Rev. Marianne Niesen

The Rev. Marianne Niesen

In Africa, the Masai are known as the fiercest of warriors.  Interestingly, though, they greet each other not with hello, how are you? Not with how goes the life of a warrior? They greet each other with how are the children? The Masai, warriors though they be, know that if the children are well, all is well.  They know that the well-being of the community’s children means the prosperity of the whole tribe.

The elders of the Hopi nation have related something similar.  When a decision-making moment in the tribe comes, the whole community sits around a circle called a Medicine Wheel.  Around that circle are representatives of all the different aspects of the community . . . the fool,  the hunter, the creator, the shaman, the politician, the cooks, the weavers, and so on.  And in the center of the circle is the children’s fire.  Next to the children’s fire sit the grandfather and the grandmother.  If you want to build, say, a condominium in the community of Spirit Lake, you must enter the Medicine Wheel in the East, at the position of the fool.  You ask, may I build a condo on Spirit Lake?  The fool takes your question, turns it around backwards, and asks what would Spirit Lake say about such a thing? Then you take the question to everyone around the Medicine Wheel. Each will respond according to their position in the community.  Finally, you must approach the grandparents who guard the children’s fire. If these two decide that the request is not good for the children’s fire, then the answer is no. They are the only ones in the circle with veto power. The point is simple:  does it hurt or help the children?  If it can past that test, then it can be done. (1)

And some 2000 years ago, in a region called Galilee, among a people called Jews, there was a teacher named Jesus.  He had followers with him, disciples, who were learning from him a way to relate to the world.  Blessed are the poor, he said.  And he fed the poor and the hungry and he took time to heal the sick and he included women and outcasts and even children in the community.  His teaching was difficult for many.  And at times, puzzling.  One day, he said:

“The Son of Man is about to be betrayed to some people who want nothing to do with God.  They will murder him. Three days after his murder, he will rise, alive” They didn’t know what he was talking about, but were afraid to ask him about it.  They came to Capernaum. When he was safe at home, he asked them, “What were you discussing on the road?”  The silence was deafening – they had been arguing with one another over who among them was the greatest. (from The Message)

This Jesus was puzzling.  Suffering. Death.  How could that be if they were on the ‘right’ side?  And they were embarrassed that Jesus seemed to know they were mostly concerned about positions.  Who was best?  Who was loved most? Who was closest to God ?  I imagine them all squirming a bit as . . .

Jesus sat down and summoned the Twelve.  “So you want first place?  Then take the last place.  Be the servant of all.  (see Mark 9:30-37, The Message)

He put a child in the middle of the room. Then, cradling the little one in his arms, he said, whoever embraces one of these children as I do embraces me, and far more than me – God who sent me.

The wisdom is ancient and cuts across cultural and religious boundaries.  From the Masai to the Hopi to our own tradition, we hear that we will know best how we are doing in the important things of life by how we are doing with the children.  Jesus knew the Romans were a problem.  He knew the injustices in the governmental and religious systems that were crushing people under taxes and oppressive laws and he addressed himself to many of those things.  But, when it came to the very personal questions like how do I know I’m doing the right thing?  How can I attain greatness – of any kind?  How can I be sure I’m on the right track? When it came to those questions, he said look at the children.  How are the children?  If the children are well, you’re heading in the right direction!

Unfortunately, Jesus’ words have all too often been reduced to a “be-kind-to-the-kids” message.  Or even a ‘become like a child’ message.  In fact, in a similar passage in Matthew’s gospel, Jesus does hold up a child as an example and says unless you become like this child, you will not enter the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 18:3). But that is not what was going on in Mark’s gospel.  In Mark, Jesus issues a challenge to embrace the children.  And to fully understand what he was calling his followers to do, it is important to understand the status of children in the first century.  Children in Jesus’ day were not like Gerber babies – cute, cuddly symbols of future promise.  They of course did hold promise and I believe most parents loved their children – but, nevertheless, they were a liability.  Among oppressed people living in poverty, the liability was obvious. Children then as now needed food and attention long before they could reciprocate or ‘carry their part of the load.’  And, apparently, among the Romans who were of higher status than those they ruled over, children’s lives were of even less value than among the Jews.  But, for all of them, until they were an age when they could assume some responsibility, the lives of children were seriously ‘at risk.’  Once commentary said it like this:

Childhood in antiquity was a time of terror.   Infant mortality rates sometimes reached 30 percent.  Another 30 percent of live births were dead by age six, and 60 percent were gone by age sixteen.  Children always suffered first from famine, war, disease, and dislocation . . . (And of course that is still true – and we see it on the news every day as we see heartbreaking pictures of refugees massing on the borders of Europe today.)
Children had little status within the community or family.  A minor child was on par with a slave, and only after reaching maturity was he/she a free person who could inherit the family estate.  The term ‘child/children’ could be used as a serious insult. (2)

In other words, when Jesus placed a child before his friends, he was calling for a re-focusing of values – indeed it was a radical re-ordering of how things were.  For, to embrace a child meant embracing the neediest among them.  With that simple act that seems somewhat benign to us, Jesus actually startled those around him to a radical hospitality toward the most vulnerable.  And, as if to be absolutely certain that people understood what he was doing he said so . . . if you really want to be first, if you really want to be the best, care for the last and the least. That was precisely what the child represented.

We, at St.Paul’s United Methodist, have been doing a lot of celebrating this year as we observe our Jubilee.  For 150 years, we have been right here, growing and serving in Helena.  I’ve been thinking a lot about what life must have been like in those beginning days.  It couldn’t have been easy.  This was a gold mining camp. Things were rough.  The bare necessities of life were hard to come by. Some people may have gotten rich through gold but the vast majority of the people here lived on the edge.  Very early in our history, in 1872, into this rough and tumble world arrived a young passionate pioneer preacher.  He was the Rev. William Wesley Van Orsdel and his ‘pastoral plan’ was “to preach, to sing, and encourage people to be good.”  And with that basic message and a good singing voice, he plunged into preaching and singing his way through Montana territory. Of course, quadruple names didn’t last long around here then so he quickly became known as ‘Brother Van.’

Stories about Brother Van abound.  His energy and commitment to the gospel made a huge impact for good in the wilds of the west.  And Helena is no exception. It was here in 1909 that Brother Van’s passion for the gospel and the needs of the community came together in a particularly amazing way.  Perhaps it was this very scripture from Mark that inspired him. Whatever it was, it was indeed right here in Helena that Brother Van challenged the church to do something for the children.  As in the time of Jesus and as is true today, children were disproportionately affected by poverty. Too many were hurting and hungry and homeless.  His preaching was direct . . . “we dare not let ‘the suffering of children go unchallenged.’” Indeed it was a vision inspired by Jesus himself when – with a simple but direct reprimand – he confronted his disciples, his friends, who wanted to ‘have the gold’ of being big and great and better than anyone else.  If you want greatness my friends, take care of the children.  Start there.  That’s what Brother Van did.  Like Jesus, he embraced the child and challenged the people – and, wisely, got some good women (the Deaconesses) involved – and that’s how Intermountain was born.  Brother Van preached and sang and dared people to be good!

Of course, Intermountain was no state-of-the-art-world-renowned-treatment center then.  But it was nevertheless a place of healing and safety for those who had little else. It was where committed adults – the deaconesses, supported by ordinary people like us – provided the gold that was really needed – some food, a bit of shelter, a basic education and a lot of love for the most vulnerable.

The Intermountain of today continues that ministry.  It has of course, changed and developed with the times (which is why it is still here).  But, that basic vision of embracing the child, of was making connections that heal, continues.  Brother Van would I think be proud of the work of Intermountain – and at the same time saddened to know that even now children are too often the victims of adult dysfunction. Far too many children begin their lives without a positive relationship with adults. During the critical first 18 months of life, too many children are abused, abandoned and ignored.  However it happens, too many children are still living on a real or figurative ‘edge.’  It is called ‘relational poverty’ and these children display an inability to connect, to bond even with people who eventually do care for them.  On average, children who come to the Intermountain residential program have experienced one unsuccessful family placement for each year of life. That means a 7 year old has had seven different homes and seven failed attempts at being part of a family.  Children arrive at Intermountain afraid, sometimes drugged and usually with little reason to hope for an outcome different from what they have come to expect. The issues and the treatment today are very different from what Brother Van and the Deaconesses knew but the overall mission remains the same.  It is to heal through healthy relationships.

In the residential program, the treatment is intensive.  It usually takes about 2 years. It is expensive and it is exhausting – for the children and adults alike.  And though that program is phenomenal, it is not for everyone.  That’s why Intermountain has expanded to offer school based services for children in several of our public schools and a day treatment program at the Intermountain School for children who cannot function in the local school system.  Intermountain works to return children to their birth families if that is possible and, if not, they have developed an adoption system to find and then train and support families willing to adopt children who have come through the rough waters of treatment and are ready for a ‘forever family.’ Intermountain now also has a Community Services Center that provides a whole array of services for families who are struggling with addictions and mental health issues.

Sometimes, when we have a program close to home, we take it for granted or assume it is what it always used to be.  There is a lot Brother Van would not recognize at the Intermountain of today.  What began as a rather small support home for children suffering from the ravages of poverty in a gold mining town now provides residential and community-based services to more than 1300 children and families throughout Montana.  But one thing he would recognize – children are still taken seriously, loved unconditionally, and equipped for a fruitful and faithful life.  Intermountain is still  a place that seeks to make sure the children are getting well.

When Jesus set a child before his disciples, he was not posing for a family photo.  His was a radical action that continues to challenge all who would be his followers.  Because the question is still . . . how are we doing at caring for the most vulnerable among us?  How are we making our world more hospitable for the littlest and the last and the least and the lost?  We can be proud of our long partnership with Intermountain and, as the founding denomination, we want to continue our support.  In fact, Liz Kohlstaedt, the clinical director at Intermountain, signed up last week to host the first Wednesday night dinner of the season – this Wednesday – on behalf of Intermountain.  So, be sure to come!  In your bulletin, I’ve included a prayer card that I hope you’ll take home. Each one has a prayer from one of the Intermountain children – and, for all the differences of time and circumstance, I don’t think the prayers you’ll read there are really much different from the prayers of those first children Intermountain served.

But, of course, the challenge is bigger than any one ministry.  That is why we as a church community participate in Family Promise, serving families who are homeless.  It is why we partner with the Lewis and Clark County Health Department and have a Diaper Sunday to assist families struggling to provide for their babies.  It is why the UMW has a bazaar and raises money for outreach and mission.  It is why we send our youth group to Guatemala and why our Youth Leadership Team works with the children of Intermountain every month as part of Chaplain Chris’ program.  It is why we send a mission team to the Amazon and serve a meal at God’s Love.  The list goes on. To be a follower of Jesus is still about creating a culture of hospitality toward the most vulnerable among us. We cannot do it all but we can each do our part.  And in so doing we will indeed become faithful followers of the one who so long ago embraced the children and challenged us all to do the same.

(c) Rev. Marianne Niesen, 9/20/15, used with permission

NOTES:

(1) As heard from the elders of the Hopi Nation and quoted by Kathleen A. Guy in Welcome the Child. Found in Imaging the Word: An Arts and Lectionary Resource, vol. 1, Kenneth T. Lawrence, ed., United Church Press: Cleveland, OH, ©1994, p. 32.

(2) Bruce Malina and Richard Rohrbaugh, Social Science Commentary on the Synoptic Gospels, as quoted in The Ministers Annual Manual, 2012-2103, Logos Publications, ©2012, p. 72.

 

Sep 29

Celebrating the High Holy Days with our Jewish children

One of the great parts of working at Intermountain as the chaplain is that I get to work with kids of various faith backgrounds, and I get to minister alongside the very skilled and creative leader of the local Jewish community, our Jewish Educator, Janet Tatz. It’s been fun to collaborate with her on any number of joint chapel services and to observe the innovation and creativity she brings to working with our Jewish students in residence.

Janet-Rosh-Hash-2015Recently, Janet had the opportunity to speak in our school’s cultural education classes about the significance of Rosh Hashanah and connecting its importance to the work the children are doing on campus. She brought her Shofar and blew it for the students while they were gathered for their cultural education class.

Janet had worked with two of our Jewish students for a number of weeks on learning how to blow the Shofar, and to their great delight, they were both able to blow the Shofar for their classmates and share a little about their family’s faith traditions around Rosh Hashanah.

The students in our youngest class, the first through third graders, took time to write thank you notes to Janet for her sharing in the traditional observances around Rosh Hashanah. This Rosh-Hosh2included sharing apples and honey, which was a great hit with the kids, as you might imagine!

Here’s a word from Janet herself about the recent celebrations and how Rosh Hashanah fits into a larger season of festivals and observances:

“Welcome to the year 5776!
    According to the Jewish tradition and (lunar) calendar, Jews around the world celebrated Rosh HaShanah (literally the Head of the Year or Jewish New Year) earlier this month.  This is a time of celebration, renewal and well-wishing in addition to being the beginning of a ten day long time of introspection, culminating in the most holy day in the Jewish year cycle: Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement.  While contemplating how one has or has not “missed the mark” in regards to being fully present in one’s life, as well as being honest, compassionate and caring, we ask forgiveness of others who we might have wronged, and promise to do better in the year ahead.  The power of the holiday is enahnced by fasting, spending the day in synagogue praying, and making amends.
     As soon as  Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur are concluded, the holiday of Sukkot ( Feast of Booths or Feast of the Tabernacle)  is celebrated.  We build sukkot, temporary outdoor shelters, that both celebrate the Fall harvest as well as remind us of the temporal nature of our time here on this earth.   
   This seven day festival, and the Jewish month of Tishrei conclude with Simchat Torah, the fourth of this month long High Holiday season.  Simchat Torah marks the conclusion of the year long cycle of reading the Torah (Five Books of Moses) and commences with the rereading of the books, with Genesis/ the Story of Creation.  This joyous holiday is celebrated with song, dancing and much merriment.  All in all, a meaningful and awe inspiring part of the Jewish year cycle.
    Shana tova:  a happy and healthy New Year to you and yours!”

–Janet Tatz, Jewish Educator

Sep 17

Teaching Tips for faith formation classrooms for children of varied abilities and special needs

When teaching children of different abilities the most important thing to remember is that “one size DOES NOT fit all” with education. It is OK to make accommodations from a provided program to keep differently abled children engaged and included. The following are suggestions on how to structure a classroom sensitive to children with varying needs:

• INCLUDE MOVEMENT: Make it a goal to move location, stand and stretch, wiggle, take a walk or switch spots every 10-15 minutes during a lesson. This is helpful for not only young children, and children with ADHD, but also remember that humans are not designed to be sitting animals and in general it will help to keep your class focused if you incorporate movement into your sessions.

Two great movement resources are www.gonoodle.com if you have access to a computer for all students to see, or incorporating yoga stretching for five minutes into every 15 minute chunk. I recommend Yoga Pretzels by Tara Gruber as an easy resource to learn and teach some quick basic stretching exercises.

Also, allow your ADHD and young children to be mobile in their own way, fidgeting in their seats, standing at their spot, sitting on their knees, shifting in theirs spots. Young bodies are not meant to sit perfectly still.

• CREATE A ROUTINE AND STICK WITH IT: Routine is one of the best ways to support anxious children. Creating a predictable routine for class and announcing the plan at the beginning of each class will support children that can have difficulties with transition. If you create a colorful poster board with the plan for class and include pictures to help with cueing, children will know what to expect.

Announce transitions before they happen, and give a count-down to when they occur. For example, if 15 minutes into class you plan on stretching, at five minutes to, tell the class “we have five minutes until our stretch break.” Do this again at 3 minutes, and even at one minute as you establish the routine.

• CREATE A SIMPLE LIST OF CLEAR EXPECTATIONS, AND MAKE SURE EVERYONE KNOWS WHAT THEY ARE, INCLUDING PARENTS: Keep rules simple and short. More than 3-4 basic rules for everyone is too many. If you have a parent meeting before faith formation sign up let your families know what the rules are and encourage them to speak to their children about the expectations.

Have a point person that parents can speak to with questions and concerns, and to be the person that reinforces the expectations. The faith formation teacher should be able to focus on teaching, so appoint a religious education director to be the central information officer and also “the enforcer.”

Encourage parents to speak with this point person if they have specific things that they know work or don’t work for their child. When children need extra support, have the point person come to class instead of having the child leave it and provide encouragement to the child.

• KEEP CORRECTIONS POSITIVE: If a child is not following a rule, remember that shouting, shaming, and blaming a child for their choice will not help them learn to do differently. For example, if a child is off task and talking to a peer, encourage them to get back on track by saying something like “Susie, you are such a smart kiddo and I am excited to hear what you have to say about our reading” instead of saying “stop talking.” Praise children whenever possible, even if its for something small, this will help children to feel valued in their class.Jesus-children

• SIGNS OF A MELTDOWN: Children with emotional sensitivities, anxiety issues, and even children that are simply overworked in school and activities, can meltdown if they are overwhelmed. This might look like crying, shouting, rocking in their spot, and refusing to participate.

The easiest way to deal with a meltdown is to prevent one. Know the kids in your class. Play a game with them to begin the year and talk with parents if you know a child will need special accommodations. A child that is stressed may start to talk or murmur to themselves, fidget more than usual, refuse to follow directions more often than usual, and other motions or sounds as well.

• PREVENTING A MELTDOWN: If something doesn’t quite feel right with a child, take a moment to get closer to them and quietly ask how you can help. Call your point person in to sit with and assist them or ask them if they would like to take a break by getting a drink or using the restroom.

Never force a child with anxiety issues to perform any task with which they are not comfortable or familiar. They may need to observe something several times before they are comfortable enough to try. Do not ask them to read aloud, take volunteers for choral reading or ask children to read who you know do not have anxiety issues.

• BE PATIENT: Losing your cool with a child is the quickest way to lose their trust. It takes a lot longer to rebuild a caring relationship after threatening, shouting, and disrespecting a child. Every moment is a learning experience, and children will mimic what they observe.

 

NOTE: This is a guest article by Kristin Ophus, one of our amazing staff that works in the Day Treatment classroom at Intermountain’s residential school in Helena. She put this resource together as a favor for a local congregation, and it was SO good, I asked her if I could share it with everyone. –Chaplain Chris

Sep 09

Working through anxiety with prayer and glitter jars

Recently I came across this excellent video produced by Julie Bayer Salzman and Josh Salzman called “Just Breathe.” It can be found here. What I like best about it is that children explain in simple terms what it Just-Breathefeels like or them when their emotions are getting out of control. And, conversely, they use the example of a jar full of glitter as a tool to explain how their thoughts go from feeling all jumbled up and out of control to feeling much more settled and calm after they have taken time to simply breathe.

Those who practice quiet times of prayer with God or have engaged in ancient Hindu and Buddhist breathing postures know intuitively what science is just now validating. Deep breathing can actually change our body chemistry. It’s one of the few things you can do “in the moment” (even when you don’t feel like it!) that will have a noticeable effect on your mood and stress level.

As reported on NPR,

Research has shown that breathing exercises… can have immediate effects by altering the pH of the blood, or changing blood pressure. But more importantly, they can be used as a method to train the body’s reaction to stressful situations and dampen the production of harmful stress hormones.”

In an article called “Take a breather,” posted August 31st on Arkansasonline.com, Benjamin A. Sigel references additional benefits of deep breathing,

Deep breathing is good for your physical and mental health. It decreases stress, decreases the heart rate and reduces the amount of carbon dioxide and stress-related chemicals in the bloodstream… Moreover, deep breathing relaxes the mind and body and can help you sleep better and increase your energy level. Other side benefits can include pain relief and even weight loss…. The human body is hard-wired… with a quick response to a snarling predator, a matter of life or death. This is the ‘fight-freeze-flight’ response. It creates anxiety and insecurity; the heart rate skyrockets, breathing becomes fast and shallow and the body releases stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol into the bloodstream so we’re instantly ready for action.”

Deep breathing and slowing ourselves down is one of the major techniques employed on a day-to-day basis at Intermountain. I thought it would be useful, then, to discuss with the children how this practice truly is spiritual and how God wants us to give him all our stressful feelings and out of control emotions.

The verse we focused on was 1 Peter 5:7— “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”

We had a conversation that ranged from the types of things we got anxious about to fishing! Because, after all, if you are going to be “casting” your anxieties and cares, you want to make sure you get them WAY out there… far enough away from you that they truly are given over to God and you can experience his peace.

glitter-jarsAfter our conversation and a brief story, we took time to each make a glitter jar like the one referenced in the video “Just Breathe.” We talked about how just breathing and slowing down can help. I emphasized that I thought one of the best ways to do this was to breathe and say a quiet prayer, “Lord, help me let go of my worries. Thank you for caring for me.”

The glitter jars turned out AWESOME, and I hope they help the children remember that when they are feeling overwhelmed they can “be still and know” that God loves them and cares for them (Psalm 46:10).

Aug 24

The 15th year of Roberts UMC’s summer visit to campus an extra special affair!

UMCThis August marked the 15th year that the amazing youth leader Joann Stark and the young people of Roberts United Methodist Church have made a special trip to Helena, Montana to blessed the children in our Residential program. Since 2000, the youth have come to campus to engage in an afternoon of play, artistic creativity, and fellowship. This year, however, they committed to be on campus for three days, putting on a wonderful Day Camp experience for us. Joann even made a special trip out the week before (and that is no small trip from Roberts to Helena!) just to make sure they could bring all the supplies for an amazing program.

The theme was “Thailand Trek,” and our children enjoyed songs, games, “Tea Times” in the picnic shelter, and lessons about how God loves us, cares for us, and will be with us forever. Even some of our staff got into the act, as it was hard not to be swept up in the enthusiasm of Joann and her crew.

UMC2While just nine came from Roberts UMC, they had the support of their entire congregation, including Pastor Jan Witman. Pastor Jan made sure that the entire congregation was praying for the children on campus and for the youth mission team, coordinating these efforts with Chaplain Chris Haughee so that they could pray for some of the specific challenges that face our children and staff each day. In addition to this, Pastor Jan worked with us to make sure there were Intermountain bulletin inserts in each week leading up to the August trip, and that everyone felt like they were included as part of this vital outreach to Intermountain’s Residential program in Helena. The fruit of all those efforts were clear in the success of the day camp, as well as the amazing generosity we were shown through the many gifts we were left with as they returned to Roberts.

Our staff were blown away to see over $1,200 in gifts pile up on the gymnasium floor as the youth came in from their shopping spree around town. New clothing was purchased for our “Treasure Chest” donations room, new arts and crafts supplies and over-the-ear headphones for our school, and our therapists were even blessed with a special gift—all the “feelings” characters from the Disney film, “Inside Out.” Pictured with this article is one of our amazing therapists with her impression of the feelings each doll represents. These dolls will be a special tool in helping our children continue to work through the difficult emotions they are struggling to make sense of so they can have healthier relationships.

We are so thankful for the partnership of churches like Roberts UMC and their youth. They understand that you don’t need a huge church, a big budget, and lots of people to make a difference. They have just humbly responded to the call to get involved and make the children of intermountain a priority. As they have done so, the Lord has blessed them tremendously and they have been able to surpass even some of their own expectations. I hope their story is an encouragement to you as you think about how you, or your group, might want to get involved in the ministry here.

Jul 06

Extending your love and prayers to our parents

Prayer ShawlsAt our most recent Parent Training event, called “L.I.F.E. Day” (Learning through Integrated Family Engagement), I took the opportunity to extend your love and prayers to the parents that had gathered. The whole day was amazing, seeing parents and children connecting with one another, forming bonds not only within families, but among the families gathered. These relationships are vital, as parenting even in the best of circumstances is trying business. But, when parenting a child with special emotional needs, you need as big a network of support as you can get.

So, when I mentioned early on in the training that there were some prayer shawl packets I had prepared from those donated by our supporting churches, I thought maybe one or two would be picked up. Imagine my surprise when all seven packets I had set out were claimed by lunch! I had to set out the remaining three for the afternoon session, just to make sure no one who wanted one was left out. I was also able to add a wonderful devotional book written by my friend and colleague in ministry, Barb Boswell. Here is an excerpt from the laminated card I put in each packet with the book and the prayer shawl:

You’ve entrusted your child to us—to care for, to treat therapeutically, and to love unconditionally. We take this responsibility very seriously and by the end of your time working with Intermountain, we know there will be more than a few tears, triumphs, ups and downs. Part of what enables us to do the work we have been called to do, for you and your family, is our belief in something bigger than ourselves. The faith-based supporters believe, as we do, that relationships are at the heart of what it means to be human. God cares about our relationships, and when they are in need of help and healing, we believe prayer makes a difference.

This prayer shawl is a tangible expression of the prayers said for you, for your child, and for your family. Those who have knit them together prayed as they started the work, prayed for the work of healing and restoration of your child as they knit, and then prayed once again as they completed the shawl and sent it to me to pass on to you.

May this shawl warm you when you are weary.

May it surround you with comfort to ease your pain and grief.

May it encircle you with caring when you are hurting… questioning… wondering.

Wear this prayer shawl when you feel the need to connect with God and be renewed in your faith that something better awaits those who seek God.

Thank you for extending your thoughts, prayers, and well-wishes to our families. And, though we have plenty of prayer shawls in stock right now, you can be sure I’ll let you know when our supply runs low!

In prayer and with thankfulness,

Chaplain Chris Haughee

Jun 22

A day of recreation and fellowship with Helena First Assembly of God

On May 30th, two dozen members of Helena First Assembly of God came and led the children and staff in several “get to know you” games, a rousing softball game, and treated the whole campus to an amazing BBQ dinner. The event was coordinated by church members Betti Hill and Pam Longmire, and Ken Holman provided the excellent dinner—barbequed hamburgers and hot dogs, salads, fruit, and trays of delicious desserts! As if that weren’t enough, the church also purchased a 6-burner Gas grill for our Therapeutic Afterschool and Summer Support program!

RecDay1 There is a passage in scripture where the writer, James, is trying to make a point about the relationship between what we say we believe and how that belief is translated into action. Apparently, there were some that reasoned that because they were strong in faith, their faith didn’t need to result in good works. James answered that argument by putting forth his own reasoning—“Now someone may argue, ‘Some people have faith; others have good deeds.’ But I say, ‘How can you show me your faith if you don’t have good deeds? I will show you my faith by my good deeds!” (James 2:18, NLT). While good deeds never earn us any merit in God’s sight, they can certainly be a sign that God has done a work in our hearts—turning us from being inward-focused and selfish in our leanings, to those that consider the needs of others.

RecDay2I love working with churches like Helena First, who understand the joy that comes from linking Christian faith with good deeds. It is a privilege to be used by God to help others and encourage one another. Certainly, our day of recreation and fellowship was an encouragement to both the members of the church that participated and the children, staff, and families of Intermountain. I look forward to more opportunities like this one to continue to grow in relationship with one another, and appreciate all Helena First Assembly of God has done for Intermountain.

 

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Perhaps your church or civic group is interested in volunteering or coming up to Intermountain for a day of recreation, service, or fellowship? I’d be more than happy to talk about the possibilities with you!

–Chaplain Chris Haughee

Jun 01

Facing Our Giants

Facing our GiantsDavid and Goliath is a favorite Bible story for most children. It tells the harrowing and heroic tale of a little boy facing down a giant and besting him on the battlefield. Recently in chapel, we discussed how God can help us face the giant-sized problems we have in our lives. Importantly, our children realized that David was courageous NOT because he was unafraid, but that he allowed his faith in God to give him the strength to face his fears.

Every child in Intermountain’s Residential program faces problems that would dwarf many of the issues that you and I might complain about in our day-to-day lives. Deep insecurities and fears have allowed negative thought patterns and behaviors to form both the armor that has kept them safe and the cage that keeps them isolated from the relationships they desire. Whether from early abuse, trauma, or neglect of some kind—or perhaps just a genetic issue of some kind—the challenges that may seem like insignificant hurdles for those of us on the outside appear to be 9-foot tall, giant-sized enemies bent on destruction.

Listen to a few of the comments from our children after our chapel time:

  • “My giant-sized problem is that I am at intermountain because I wasn’t being safe with myself. I can show courage and face this problem by doing my work and talking to staff about my problems.”
  • “My problem right now is that I have to overcome my feelings about leaving Intermountain. I can show courage and face this problem by talking about those feelings.”
  • “My giant problem right now is getting along with my staff. I can be courageous by showing them I want to change by being able to talk about hard things.”

What role do you play in encouraging these young “Davids” to face their giant-sized problems? First, I hope that you would pray for them to keep reaching out to the adults in their lives that are there to help them heal. Second, you can support Intermountain—a place that encourages them to look up with faith as well as out to others for help—with your time, your prayers, and your faithful financial support. Together, we can help our children face their giant-sized problems and encourage them to have hope for a better future.

May 27

The Irreplaceable Holy Spirit-a sermon for Pentecost

(this sermon was first delivered on Pentecost Sunday 2015 at Headwaters Covenant Church; Helena, MT. © Chaplain Chris Haughee, all rights reserved)

We are going to start today by putting on our imagination hats! Working in children’s ministry as the chaplain at Intermountain, I am used to engaging the imagination in order to teach and to reach the children. As adults, our imagination gets stunted and that’s a shame. So, let’s reclaim a godly sense of imagination as we get started today looking into his Word. Ok?

Now, with your imaginations engaged… Have you ever thought to yourself how amazing it would have been to be present when Jesus walked the earth – just to be near him, to see his face, to hear his voice?

Or rather than go back in time, how about having Jesus here with us today?  How remarkable would that be?  We’d be bursting at the seams with enthusiasm and passion for ministry—right!?

What if I could promise you that next week, during the service, Jesus would make a bodily appearance and you could meet him face-to-face?  THEN, how many of us would get the courage to invite someone to church?

Okay, walk a little further with me on this fantasy… let’s say all this took place… next week the church is overflowing… hundreds of people are outside on the grass because the sanctuary is full.  Wow!  Wouldn’t that be great?  And, true to my word… Jesus arrives!

He takes the microphone and starts to speak, and when he speaks our hearts are filled.  We sense the peace and joy available in knowing him intimately.  He speaks for hours, and oddly enough, no one seems to think that is too long.  Towards the end, he sits on the steps here and our children rush up to sit on his lap.

He invites them to draw close, and a little boy gets up the courage to ask…

“Jesus, will you be here tomorrow?  Can you stay with us?”

The smile fades from Jesus’ face because he doesn’t want to disappoint the boy… he doesn’t want to disappoint us, but then he finally speaks:

“It’s better for you if I don’t… so I am going to leave.”

WHAT?  Does anyone believe that?  And, then Jesus explains:

Read John 16:6-15

Because I have said these things, you are filled with grief.  But I tell you the truth: It is for your good that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Counselor will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to Read the rest of this entry »

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