Shame is a sense of being totally unlovable… worthless. While guilt is a feeling we have when we feel bad about what we have done, shame is when we feel bad about who we are. Shame can be the result of deep hurt, abandonment, abuse, neglect or ridicule. When these traumatizing factors occur early in …
Tag Archive: ACEs
Jul 21
Room at the Table? And… what kind of table?
[note: the following is a more “scholarly” reflection, representative of some of my ongoing doctoral studies which focus on making sure that families working through the challenges of raising children previously abused or neglected, or are having attachment issues find a welcoming place of worship in their community… a place at the table, if you …
Jul 14
“Containing” Carrie
One of the issues for children who have experienced abuse or neglect is an inability to process their interior emotional world in a healthy way. Regularly, this inner turmoil results in unsafe behaviors—including self-harm and physical aggression towards those with whom they truly desire to experience deep connection. Until those out of control emotions are …